B. Co-Creating the Relationship

Establishing Trust and Intimacy with the Client

Ability to create a safe, supportive environment that produces ongoing mutual respect and trust


B. Co-Creating the Relationship

Coaching Presence

Being fully conscious and creating spontaneous relationships with clients, employing a style that is open, flexible and confident.

*Partners with client to create/enter a shared, present coaching space

* Is willing to not know, to risk, and to experiment in the moment

*Uses humor and lightness to invite perspective and dis-identification

* Demonstrates self-awareness and ability to self-correct own inner state

*Maintains ground and resourcefulness during client’s strong emotions


C. Communicating Effectively

Active Listening

Ability to focus completely on what the client is saying and is not saying. To understand the meaning of what is said in the context of the client’s desires, and to support the client in self-expression.

*Summarizes and reflects the client’s concerns, goals, emotions, language and interpretations.

* Reflects in/congruence, observations, and assessments around voice, affect, tone of voice, and somatic shape

* Invites clearing and/or finding new perspective in client’s situation, rather than supporting existing narrative.


C. Communicating Effectively

Direct Communication

Communicating effectively during coaching sessions, and using language that has the greatest positive impact on the client

D. Facilitating Learning and Results

Creating Awareness

Ability to integrate and accurately evaluate multiple sources of information and to make interpretations that help the client to gain awareness and thereby achieve agreed-upon results.

*Helps clients to discover for themselves the new thoughts, beliefs, perceptions, emotions, moods, etc. that strengthen their ability to take action and achieve what is important to them.

*Invites client to make internal processes explicit, and to identify somatic resources

*Invites client to witness and experiment with somatic, narrative, emotional and behavioral shifts that reveal possibilities

* Names own present moment experience and models self-awareness

Elke Ruggaber, Personal Development Coach, MBA, ACC  

336-269-1221   aperturecoach@gmail.com